When things aren't adding up, start subtracting

As anyone from a relationship of domestic violence can attest...deception runs high. It is not uncommon for the victim to be constantly deceived by the abuser and them when confronted, the abuse creates confusion and crazy-making feelings for the victim. The abusers are highly skilled in manipulation tactics, however, often the underlying sense that things "just aren't adding up" can't be shaken by the victim. If this sounds like something you are experiencing or have experienced, you are not alone. This is a common behavior trait of abusers. They lie. To cover their lies, the manipulate, create confusion and use "gaslighting" behaviors. It's very important to trust your gut here. Your intuition does not lie. If things aren't adding up...you gotta start subtracting!